Don’t be too blinded when a friend is subliminally saying hurtful and painful words, such as, “I actually thought it was moving too fast, but now I’m happy for you after seeing you two together.”Any friend shouldn’t need proof of your relationship in order to be happy for you.
Don’t take any belittling personally, because sometimes those you call friends, simply don’t have your best interests at heart; these aren’t true friends.
I have always sensed some attraction on both of our ends at different times throughout our friendship, but neither of us have ever acted on it at all. Over the past couple of years, we’ve become really, really close, sharing stuff about our families, dating lives, professional lives and personal lives. Besides both of our reservations, which we discussed, there are other things at stake here: Our friendship (which is really important to me), our group of friends (we all know how quickly things could get awkward if something goes wrong), our professional connection (I take my career seriously and so does he), and my heart (which I don’t want broken … When we had finished the kiss/discussion of reservations, we both had no idea what to do next.
I’m having trouble breathing even saying this.” Then he grabbed my hand and said, “I love you.” Now mind you, we tell each other we love each other regularly.
I have stumbled upon a dating conundrum that I cannot figure out on my own.
I don’t need to consult an advice columnist, or my friends or therapist.
If you absolutely must be certain about her feelings, then be direct.
But, as Nicole warns, do not approach your friend when copious amounts of booze have been consumed. She also adds, “Be sure you are ready to get into a relationship, if you do take it to the next level.